Childcare. I feel like this takes up so much of my brain all the time. We have done everything. Nanny. Nanny Share. Grandparent help. Daycare. Since we moved to the suburbs we have been doing daycare/preschool. You can call it preschool and I’m sure they teach Ben things, but it lasts from 730a-630p so let’s be honest, it’s daycare. We loved our last nanny in the city (Not so much the nanny share nanny who became nanny from hell when we told her we were moving on. Also not the nanny that fell asleep and sabotaged our nanny cam. We didn’t love her either.) but Ben is older and needed socialization and from a cost perspective, you kind of need to commit to one form of childcare so daycare it has been.
But, now that baby #2 is on the way, and Ben is heading to Kindergarten in the fall (take a moment to process that if you need to. Ben. Will. Be. In. Kindergarten. Um. I’m old.) we had to re-evaluate our child care situation. Our local public school runs from 930a-330p. Suuuuper convenient hours for any working parent. I mean really, even if you work in this town, are you supposed to roll into work at 10am?! This is what started our dilemma. What are we going to do for pick up and drop off. They have before and after care at the local school, but I think that may bet you 8a-5p. Still not really going to cut it for our commutes into NYC. I considered another nanny. Somehow the going rate for a nanny here is MORE than in NYC. Figures. Because we have the space, everyone kept suggesting live in nanny which would be fine but you have to find that person. Not everyone is dying to live with us. Plus how much of a reduced rate do you really get?? (That wasn’t rhetorical. How much?? Nobody can really tell me).
Then we met a local representative for Au Pairs at a Touch a Truck event. Do they have those everywhere? I don’t remember touching trucks growing up but now they seem all the rage. Back to the AU Pair. An Au Pair is from another country, is between 18-26, lives with you and provides childcare for 45 hours a week. You have to pay a million fees that confuse me and then a weekly fee to her, but when you add it all together it works out to be $350 a week. A WEEK! (This is cheap for us in case you live in another part of the country where I have come to learn child care is waaaaay cheaper than here). $350 for 45 hours of child care. How is this legal? Pretty much thanks to a J-1 visa which ensures your Au Pair also takes 2 classes at a local college and thus is “studying” in the US. However you want to sell it, we are in. I also learned through my local moms group that Au Pairs are big in this area. NYC not so much because one of the stipulations is that they get a private room in your house and by the time you have the money to actually have an extra private bedroom in NYC, you aren’t so much concerned with $350 a week child care.
As luck would have it for us, we have 3 private extra rooms. One is currently fully occupied by Josh because he doesn’t dare sleep within 10 feet of me for fear that he sneezes, wakes me up and then I am mad at him for the next 7 hours because I can’t get back to sleep. One is occupied by our office but I’m willing to sacrifice is necessary and move our office into ur formal living room because lets be honest, what does someone actually use a formal living room for?? And the final one is set up as an in-law apartment with its own private bathroom, kitchen and living room area. The only catch is it is in the basement and I could see how at 18 from another country, me making you live in my basement may not be your first choice. If that is the case though, we’ll just revert to the office/bedroom #5 which is on the main level of the house, still far away from the other 4 bedrooms. Then our guests will have to sleep in the basement. Hey, it’s better than the pull out couch from my first apartment that I could touch from my bed. When we opened that the entire studio apartment became one big sleeping area. It was…odd. Be happy I have a real bed for you to sleep in and be done with it!
Now, there are a few catches when it comes to an au pair, one of which is they can only work 10 hours a day. That may seem like a lot, but we are gone from 730a-630p. 11 hours. Ugh. Of course. We debated getting two au pairs, then talked ourselves down from that ledge. I think in the end, the solution is to still maintain a presence at daycare for the baby for 6 hours a day, basically when Ben is in school. This kind of kills our initial cost saving argument as those six hours a day actually cost $400 a week…more than the au pair but it will bring me piece of mind that nobody is getting burned our from 11 hour days with our infant. The Au Pair will still do mornings and afternoons and we will have loads of time left over for the week to maybe possibly get dinner alone together once a week.
So that is where we are at. Au Pair search has commenced. Baby is on waiting list at daycare. In law basement apartment is getting cleaned out of being our personal storage area and returned into a useful space. I have LOADS of commentary on the search process that I will enlighten you with in future writings. I know. You are so excited you can hardly hold your breathe.